𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐭𝐥𝐞 𝐠𝐫𝐞𝐞𝐧 𝐜𝐢𝐫𝐜𝐥𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞--- 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 '𝐬𝐨𝐜𝐢𝐚𝐥' 𝐜𝐢𝐫𝐜𝐥𝐞𝐬

 𝐖𝐞𝐝𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐝𝐚𝐲 𝐖𝐡𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐥𝐞𝐬 # 127

𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭'𝐬 𝐮𝐩 𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭𝐬𝐀𝐩𝐩??

I thought of asking this to our dear messenger one day- hoping to get some response but alas – it is just an app and not a human being…

𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐭𝐥𝐞 𝐠𝐫𝐞𝐞𝐧 𝐜𝐢𝐫𝐜𝐥𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞--- 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 '𝐬𝐨𝐜𝐢𝐚𝐥' 𝐜𝐢𝐫𝐜𝐥𝐞𝐬

I was introduced to this green circle by a dear friend of mine many years back. Till then I was happy calling someone or sending an sms… without waiting or expecting an immediate reply…. The days when talking on phone and meeting friends was more fun . I started using other social media apps also around that same time.

Those were also the days when people would wish others on festivals either by visiting them or calling them on phone- when greeting cards were made by hand rather than online, when things were sold by word of mouth rather than through shopping groups, when you never expected an immediate reply or did not know whether your message was read or not --- there was peace and solidarity

Then came this new social circle – different messaging and social media apps – easing the lives of so many people.

It was easy to use and communicate – message me was replaced by WhatsApp me….. bedtime stories were replaced by Insta ones…

Overtime these different apps became very convenient and easy to use tools. Quick to message, get replies, make plans, sell things, get information, share pictures, have a video call and so on.

But few of us took this green circle too seriously. And made the social media our life.

You are part of a large group, people don't know you face to face – you can say anything, shout anything, pour your immense treasure of knowledge to everyone without them knowing you- and that too from the comfort of your home- sometimes things which you may not do when you meet the people face to face.

You can easily share your pictures of the last trip or of anything interesting you may have done. People like it – don't like it- but you attach importance to these responses.

Nowadays relations depend a lot on social media – friendships turn sour if you don't comment or 'like' the updates, or ignore or miss that last update by them. People become enemies if they don't get a reply in a minute 😉

Social media ignorance would probably be the cause of next world war 😂

I myself am quiet active on social media – I find it easier to drop a quick message on WhatsApp to someone for something, love posting my clicks or writings on social media – but I don't let it govern my activity. I hardly monitor who may have read or seen and who may not and neither I define the relation with someone based on this – 'who-saw-my-updates”

I would let you decide for yourself – would you use social media for fun or take it seriously? Would you want to start the next war?? 😉

Some food for thought , before you go ahead to check the next story or post one .. on this 𝑾𝒆𝒅𝒏𝒆𝒔𝒅𝒂𝒚........ 𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝒅𝒆𝒄𝒆𝒏𝒕 𝒈𝒖𝒚 𝒊𝒏 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒎𝒊𝒅𝒅𝒍𝒆 𝒐𝒇 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒘𝒆𝒆𝒌... 𝑹𝒊𝒈𝒉𝒕 𝒊𝒏 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒄𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒓𝒆... 𝑵𝒐𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒈𝒊𝒗𝒊𝒏𝒈 '𝒃𝒍𝒖𝒆𝒔' 𝒏𝒐𝒓 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒘𝒆 '𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒏𝒌 𝑮𝒐𝒅' 𝒇𝒐𝒓! 😊

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𝑫𝒊𝒅 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒑𝒍𝒂𝒚 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝑻𝒆𝒕𝒓𝒊𝒔 𝒈𝒂𝒎𝒆??

 𝐖𝐞𝐝𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐝𝐚𝐲 𝐖𝐡𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐥𝐞𝐬 # 126

𝑫𝒊𝒅 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒑𝒍𝒂𝒚 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝑻𝒆𝒕𝒓𝒊𝒔 𝒈𝒂𝒎𝒆??

As a kid, I loved playing video games…

I was introduced to Mario on a summer vacation when my father bought a video game set home. The north- ki- summer heat was beaten by sitting inside and pushing the buttons on a remote, making the character on the screen jump, roll, fire, die and get alive again!! (𝘐 𝘢𝘮 𝘴𝘶𝘳𝘦 𝘢 𝘸𝘩𝘰𝘭𝘦 𝘸𝘩𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘭𝘦 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘣𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘷𝘰𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘴𝘦 𝘷𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘰 𝘨𝘢𝘮𝘦𝘴 😉)

Playing the games again and again to move more ahead, trying new games and rejoicing on clearing that new stage became a big achievement. Though the time to spend on video games was restricted and was only allowed after finishing some part of the holiday homework or task, but that precious hour in the day was really good.

With time, these games changed- Mario, Contra, Tank, Load Runner, Circus...... One moved from those small boxes to mobiles .... but the charm of playing a game remained.

One game which I particularly loved was 𝐓𝐞𝐭𝐫𝐢𝐬. This game stayed with me over the years.

I haven't played it in years - rather forgot all about it. But I read an article last Sunday, which brought back its memories. I searched for it and could find an online version to revisit the game.

For the unknown, “Tetris is the classic game that challenges you to create order out of chaos by clearing horizontal lines of blocks. It is a puzzle video game created in 1985 by Alexey Pajitnov, a Soviet software engineer. It has been published by several companies on more than 65 platforms, setting a Guinness world record for the most ported game”

The game basically requires the player to fit in the different blocks to make an even space and not to let the screen fill in.

While it lets you apply your mind on how best to keep the space clear, it gives a very important lesson – a lesson of fitting in – also fitting in without changing oneself.

Every time you try to fit a piece, you are letting it fit in amidst the chaos. You are fitting it among the other fitter or not so fitter ones. You are letting it take the shape of the block- letting it gel and mix with others. But at the same time you are not changing its shape to make it fittable!!!!

In life too, we try to fit in – fit in with the ongoing trends, the society, circumstances, the chaos all around. Fitting in or adapting one self is good. You cant resist change as it is the only thing permanent and would have to adapt to the changes - that is fit in.

But fitting in does not mean to change oneself completely. You fit to adapt but not to change your basic self. Just like a Tetris piece, you adjust and adapt to the space around but don’t change your shape or your basic nature and personality to be like others. You go with the flow but do not lose your flow.  You mix with other colours but don’t lose your shine. You move, turn around, shake things around to fit but don’t shake yourself. Also while fitting in you don’t let anyone control it but let it be your choice

So if you haven’t played Tetris, go have a look. If you know about it, revisit it with this angle or let me know your thoughts??

I leave you to this thought on this 𝑾𝒆𝒅𝒏𝒆𝒔𝒅𝒂𝒚........ 𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝒅𝒆𝒄𝒆𝒏𝒕 𝒈𝒖𝒚 𝒊𝒏 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒎𝒊𝒅𝒅𝒍𝒆 𝒐𝒇 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒘𝒆𝒆𝒌... 𝑹𝒊𝒈𝒉𝒕 𝒊𝒏 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒄𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒓𝒆... 𝑵𝒐𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒈𝒊𝒗𝒊𝒏𝒈 '𝒃𝒍𝒖𝒆𝒔' 𝒏𝒐𝒓 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒘𝒆 '𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒏𝒌 𝑮𝒐𝒅' 𝒇𝒐𝒓! 😊

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When one speaks or does not speak…. You know

 𝐖𝐞𝐝𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐝𝐚𝐲 𝐖𝐡𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐥𝐞𝐬 # 125 -the quasquicentennial 😉

When one speaks or does not speak…. You know

I used to buy clothes from a reputed brand in a nearby mall. The person managing the shop was a humble person always smiling and helping the customers, suggesting new books and prompt in billing.

A month back when I visited the shop, the earlier shop manager was not there. Some new person was sitting... And only sitting .... Not looking at the customers, not looking at what the other helpers in the shop were doing, no smiles, no happiness on his face. For him we were just customers. The store's service had also degraded. The clothes were not arranged properly, the helpers were helpless and the shop was not giving a welcoming feeling

I decided to change my shopping address as for me service was more important than the shop

This has happened several other times as well where I would avoid any such shop or service where the service provider was not very cordial or welcoming. There are other options and why not go for them. For me a person's behaviour is more important that what he /she does.

This not only applies to any commercial aspect but also in personal lives. One connects with the other if he/she gets respect and affection and feels safe and loved while interacting. Some people may definitely be introverts and may not open up so much, but then that can be easily understood.

But otherwise, it is when one speaks, or does not speak that you know ….

So, whether it is shopping or talking to someone, what or how one behaves plays a very important role in creating one’s ‘brand’- the shop may look very good or a person may be dressed up well- but the type of treatment you get in the shop or from a person is above all the dressing-up. It is not necessary the words but also the body language that plays an important role.

What do you think about it?

I leave you with this thought on this 𝑾𝒆𝒅𝒏𝒆𝒔𝒅𝒂𝒚........ 𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝒅𝒆𝒄𝒆𝒏𝒕 𝒈𝒖𝒚 𝒊𝒏 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒎𝒊𝒅𝒅𝒍𝒆 𝒐𝒇 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒘𝒆𝒆𝒌... 𝑹𝒊𝒈𝒉𝒕 𝒊𝒏 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒄𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒓𝒆... 𝑵𝒐𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒈𝒊𝒗𝒊𝒏𝒈 '𝒃𝒍𝒖𝒆𝒔' 𝒏𝒐𝒓 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒘𝒆 '𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒏𝒌 𝑮𝒐𝒅' 𝒇𝒐𝒓! 😊

 

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Order order…. Did you just judge someone or something…..??

 𝐖𝐞𝐝𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐝𝐚𝐲 𝐖𝐡𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐥𝐞𝐬 # 124

 

Order order…. Did you just judge someone or something…..??

 

A was late for the get together planned at a friend’s place. On reaching, his friend commented-  “You are single, stay alone here and it is a Saturday today.. what work you had to get so late?”. A had to ignore the comment and the not to be late judgement passed against him and continued with the greetings with others.

He met B and enquired on her well- being.

B was a homemaker and was leaving early from the party.

On her way out she met C who was telling others about his new car. “He has all the money of his father and simply spends time creating you tube videos, he can buy a new car every month”. B was thinking while talking to C.

“How lucky she is – going back on time to her cosy home. What does she know about the struggle of working and surviving in the corporate world. What does she has to do except sitting at home” was D ‘s thought for B who was also part of the group.

D walked up to A and started discussing about his startup. “Getting a monthly salary and a good position in the company and still bothered about my startup!! Wonder what he wants to show!!” Were A’s thoughts

 

The whole get together was no less than a court scene… where everyone was judging or assuming things about other one.

 

This is just an example of something which happens so often in our lives. We judge others or get judged by others……. Few of us may not be so judgemental 😉 though but usually it becomes very natural to assume things about others or form an opinion based on what you can see infront of your eyes.

n  Person is quiet active on social media – he/she is pretty 𝘷𝘦𝘭𝘭𝘢 (free)

n  Person is too busy with work – doing drama of being busy

n  Person is available to talk at all times – 𝘬𝘶𝘤𝘩 𝘬𝘢𝘢𝘮 𝘯𝘢𝘩𝘪 𝘩𝘢𝘪𝘯 𝘬𝘺𝘢 𝘪𝘴𝘬𝘦 𝘱𝘢𝘴𝘴

n  Person is permanent work from home – ohh so easy – can manage so many other things as well with work

n  Person is staying alone away from home – ohh must not be going well with family members, loves freedom too much….

And on and on and on…. We are so quick at jumping to conclusions rather than understanding the other person. Why not for once step into the shoes of the person and then assume.

 

Or better just leave it- live and let live….

 

I leave to this not so judgmental thought on this 𝑾𝒆𝒅𝒏𝒆𝒔𝒅𝒂𝒚........ 𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝒅𝒆𝒄𝒆𝒏𝒕 𝒈𝒖𝒚 𝒊𝒏 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒎𝒊𝒅𝒅𝒍𝒆 𝒐𝒇 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒘𝒆𝒆𝒌... 𝑹𝒊𝒈𝒉𝒕 𝒊𝒏 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒄𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒓𝒆... 𝑵𝒐𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒈𝒊𝒗𝒊𝒏𝒈 '𝒃𝒍𝒖𝒆𝒔' 𝒏𝒐𝒓 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒘𝒆 '𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒏𝒌 𝑮𝒐𝒅' 𝒇𝒐𝒓! 😊

 

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